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Read all my posts in response to the August 2nd Modern Love essay in the New York Times.

My Book Hits #4 on Arielle Ford's Huffington Post Blog!

Arielle Ford has inspired so many with her groundbreaking book Soulmate Secret and her trove of professional treasures as a long time publicist and speaker in Everything You Should Know

I am so honored that my book is #4 on her Huffington Post top picks for 2010. Check it out: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/arielle-ford/my-top-7-great-reads-this_b_754885.html

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Audio Book: THIS IS NOT THE STORY YOU THINK IT IS


For those of you who would rather listen to a book than read one, here is the link to my Audio Book read by the fabulous Joyce Bean, whose velvet voice and pitch perfect intonation makes me seem a lot cooler than I am. And a lot more mature.

http://www.amazon.com/This-Not-Story-You-Think/dp/144186766X/ref=tmm_abk_title_0

Review
THIS IS NOT THE STORY YOU THINK IT IS . . . :
A Season of Unlikely Happiness
Laura Munson
Read by Joyce Bean

Instead of falling apart when her passive-aggressive husband announces he’s leaving their fifteen-year marriage, Laura Munson, a frustrated writer, said to him,” I don’t buy it.” Then she asked how she could give him the distance he needed for his “midlife” crisis without harming their children, ages 8 and 12. Joyce Bean delivers Munson’s debut memoir, first published in a New York Times column on modern love. With dramatic energy she captures Munson’s determination to achieve two goals: remain married and become a published writer. In a plain-spoken yet compelling style Bean contrasts scenes of Munson’s reasonableness and appearance of serenity with a simmering rage that from time to time unexpectedly explodes with f-bombs. Bean’s presentation of Munson’s heartbreaking and laugh-out-loud vignettes makes the listener her confidante. G.D.W. © AudioFile 2010, Portland, Maine [Published: AUGUST 2010]

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The Traveling Writer Blog

Here’s a Q&A I did for the great Blog: The Traveling Writer by Alexis Grant. She takes an interesting social media spin in her questions. Check it out by clicking here.

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Morning Light

You know when the cloud lifts and the light comes in? When things are vivid and asking you to smile and go easy and say thank you? Annie Lamott says these are her two favorite prayers, “Help me help me help me,” and “Thank you thank you thank you.” I’m not sure how it is that we shift from the first to the second, but this morning, after a month of Help me’s, there it was: Thank you.

I’ve spent the last 20 years when I’m not working or being a mother, escaping to my office to write novels. And as of a year ago yesterday, when my New York Times piece got published in Modern Love, my life utterly changed. Suddenly I have a product which brings in a pay check and pays for my kid’s soccer cleats and organic strawberry splurges, (but not quite health insurance)…and in order to perpetuate this, I don’t have time for those novels. Not now.

This blog brings me joy because in it I get to share my little moments. I get to hear from readers and know that my writing has helped them somehow and respond to them. But for the last month, as I tread through the strange new waters of social media, Twittering and Facebooking, and investigating the amazingly powerful communities like Good Reads and She Writes and Blogher, and Huffington Post, and and and…I just started to want out of those waters altogether. I wanted to make some tea and sit here and do what I know how to do and that’s write books.

It seems like a LOT of writers feel this way. Especially those of us who didn’t come up in the age of the internet. Especially those of us who are used to long moments of focusing on one thing and making it as good as we can. Widening the third eye takes focus and solitude. Sometimes social media feels like there’s a swarm of mosquitoes in my office biting at me and I can’t find that focus. It’s maniac. I complained about it all month to cherished author friends. Sort of guiltily, because there’s so much to LOVE about the opportunity social media affords the writer. It means you can reach your audience without the publishing world. That is fantastic news! It’s just a new paradigm, and it has turned my writing life as I’ve known if for half my life up…side…down.

One author friend shared this quote with me:
I start a book as a poet-warrior armed with the noblest intentions, but by the end of the publishing process, I feel like a door-to-door
salesman
.” — James Sturm.

Do you think that when Longfellow wrote these sagacious words:
The heights by great men reached and kept, were not obtained by sudden flight. But they, while their companions slept, were toiling upward in the night,” he meant that we should fragment our energy into piggybacking on other people’s dreams and successes, obsessively, from our dark room by computer screen glow? Or that he meant that we should be using those upward toiling nights to mine our lives, widening that third eye until it’s sharp and keen like a hawk, putting our hearts and minds to a focus, not a series of shoulder taps.

Don’t get me wrong, I am thank you thank you thank you (and a bit of help me help me help me) in regard to social media. But this morning, I vowed that I would do like I used to. Wake up early, make some tea, and sit down to work on a new novel. And with a fresh new document that one day will become 300 or 400 pages…when the teapot screamed, I went into the kitchen and saw the cinnamon buns I’d lain on a plate for the kids, wrapped in morning light. Beautiful and basking.

There is freedom in creature comfort.

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Awesome Women Hub

What inspiring women showed up today at the Facebook:  Awesome Women’s Hub, hosted by Robin Rice.  Thanks for showing up.  If you didn’t catch it, you can go to this link and scroll down to July 16th, 2010.  yrs. Laura

http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?v=feed&id=1177909135&story_fbid=142012725811185#!/event.php?eid=101855016535859&ref=mf

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Penguin Water Cooler Chat Transcript

http://us.penguingroup.com/static/pages/publishersoffice/subcontent/watercoolerarchive/lauramunson.html

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Australia’s Sunday Life Magazine Column, May 30th 2010

Click here to read Sarah Wilson’s column about my book in Sunday Life Magazine, “In which I Learn the Beauty of Not Being Right”

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Laura’s Interview on Australia’s Channel 7 program “Sunrise”

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Joan Hamburg Show: NYC

Of the many many radio interviews I’ve had the honor to do nationally and internationally in the last few months, this is one of my favorites.

http://www.wor710.com/topic/play_window.php?audioType=Episode&audioId=4535452

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Video for iVillage

Video: Her Husband Wanted a Divorce, She said: “I Don’t Buy It”

An author describes the surprising way she dealt with a crisis in her marriage

Jennifer Merritt ON Apr 9, 2010 at 2:55PM

Laura Munson always wanted to be a published novelist. But after countless rejection letters for the 14 novels she wrote, she never imagined that the story that would finally land her a book deal would be her own.

Munson wrote an essay for The New York Times, “Those Aren’t Fighting Words, Dear,” about her refusal to give up on her marriage after her husband told her, “I don’t love you anymore. I’m not sure I ever did.” Her response? “I don’t buy it,” and then she gave her husband six months to sort out his issues. The reaction to her essay was so strong it crashed the website’s comments. Soon after, she landed her first book deal for her just-published book, This Is Not the Story You Think It Is (Two years later, she and her husband are still together, and much happier.)

In the video below, Munson talks to iVillage about how she found strength during the crisis in her marriage, what she told her kids, and offers her best advice for newlyweds.

View the video here!

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