Haven Winter Blog Series: My Haven

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Every year I give my blog over to my Haven Writing Retreats alums for a week or so, and ask them to write on a theme. This year it’s this question: What is your haven and how do you show up for it?

Here is my answer.

The Chapel

Jennifer Revill

Chapel 1

Amidst the crowded terminals, the sensory assault of the checkpoints, and the rumble of shuttle buses at the curb, there is a place that breeds calm. On this day, I am alone at Our Lady of the Airways chapel at Logan International Airport.  The midday Mass is over, and the dim, brick-walled, low-ceilinged sanctuary is quiet. A decorative wood grid ceiling floats above the rows of pews. (There’s a local joke: it’s appropriate that the pews at the airport chapel have insufficient legroom.) Rows of colored votive candles glow.

When it opened in 1951, this chapel was the first at a US airport, and the first Catholic one. But like many airport chapels throughout the world, it has become nondenominational of necessity. Below one of the Stations of the Cross, there is a neat stack of prayer rugs and a diagram with an arrow pointing towards Mecca.

During my thirty years as a facility manager at this airport, I’ve observed millions of travelers. What they do can be amusing, even endearing, but also aggravating, sometimes downright distressing, and, every so often, illegal. These people want and need many things: a craft-brewed beer, a cinnamon latte, a place to nurse their baby, to charge their phone, or to shed a tear in private. Though they are travelers, they are vulnerable human beings first, who exhibit the complete range of human emotions while under our roof: dread, fury, despondency, anticipation, joy.  Always, they want to feel secure, and to feel certain about what’s going to happen next. It’s my job to help them succeed in this.

I was at Logan on 9/11. That morning, a colleague raced out of his office, shouting, “An aircraft just hit the World Trade Center!” Was this possible? And then he said, “And they’re saying that the plane left from here!” This was downright terrifying. Within an hour, not knowing much more than the rest of a shocked nation, a team of us had gathered at the airport hotel in preparation for…what? This was not an ordinary crash that we were trained to handle. That day, we could only watch the tragedy unfold on television. Holding hands in that hotel conference room, we watched the North Tower collapse, many of us weeping.  The airport chaplain stayed with us all afternoon, tendering comfort and prayers.

Eventually, amidst the uncertainty, we set to work. We received and comforted the families of the crew and passengers on the two airliners that had been lost, who showed up at the airport for lack of any other place to go. Every building, parking garage, tunnel, and rooftop were inspected. We also needed to close and secure every terminal at Logan for the several no-fly days that followed the attacks. Airports are not designed to be locked. This had never been done. It seemed impossible.

But it wasn’t impossible.  How do any of us ever do the many impossible things that we are all called upon to do in a life? Starting from a place of security helps; but if we don’t have that, and we don’t have certainty, we simply stumble forward in faith and hope. As vulnerable human beings, we set to work, doing our best and trusting for grace.

This chapel is my Haven. I come here when I need respite from work stress, or a moment to expand my heart. I think about life, the loss and pain of it and the exultation of it. I say thanks for the people who feel their way through life beside me. This little chapel helps remind me that so much is possible.

My Haven

Natasha Kasprzyk

As a high school English teacher, I’m used to being asked questions.

A lot of questions.

Most of the time, the questions allow for reasonable answers:

What’s a semicolon?

Why does “pneumonia” start with a “p”?

How long does this have to be?

Some questions have answers, but they’re never satisfying:

Why did Candy let Carlson shoot his dog?

How could the jury convict Tom Robinson?

But those are nothing when put up against the mother of all questions:

What does this word mean?

How do we know what a word means? Do we consult the Rosetta Stone? Urban Dictionary? Connotations from 1972, 1986, or 2015? How my nephew names his toys? Is there a “correct” meaning for any word?

Take “haven,” for example. Merriam-Webster’s primary definition is “harbor, port”. So…where a sailboat hangs out when it’s over summer tourism and needs to introvert extra hard?

The secondary definition of “haven” is “a place of safety: refuge.” I don’t get why that’s the second definition. Was it 26 votes shy of taking first after the dictionary gods found themselves deadlocked and handed over the reins to Survey Monkey, letting plebeians make the final call?

The older I get, the more strongly I believe that to truly honor a word, one should pick it apart, turn it inside out, see how it looks next to last year’s favorite sweater, the hurrah of this year’s 4th of July fireworks, a hot mug of tea…and how it fits inside one’s heart.

Or, in my case, how one’s heart creates space – becomes a haven – for another, and for itself.

In March 2011, my heart was beating too fast, working too hard, and becoming too full of what didn’t serve it. If I couldn’t realign its purpose, I didn’t know how much of my original self I’d be able to save.

In one grateful moment, I realized that in order to be me, to be my true self, I needed to take care of someone else.

I’ll never forget the afternoon I brought him home. He just stared at me, his brown eyes boring holes into my soul, wondering if he’d be safe, loved, protected…and, perhaps, what my expectations of him would be.

Don’t put him in bed with you, they said. He’ll never sleep in his own bed, they said.

We’ll be fine, I said.

Seven years later, we’re still fine.

I’ve shaped my life around him. I make sacrifices for him. He can drive me absolutely bonkers for three days straight, but as soon as I have to turn my back and leave him with people who love him, I miss him.

He is my everything.

This is how I show up for him, my haven: I make room in my heart because I love him so much.

He radiates joy when we go to the park, as he runs and spins in circles until he’s out of breath. He brings joy and smiles to friends and strangers because, really, he’s just that cute.

And, at the end of the day, he curls up in my lap, nudges my legs with his head, lets out a deep sigh and a soft smack of his lips as he settles into sleep.

To love him and see a brighter, more interesting world through his eyes — he is my haven, he will forever be the primary definition for that word in my personal dictionary, and I’ll show up for him for as long as he’s here and years after he’s gone.

My baby boy.

My first love.

My first dog.


Steamboat Sully


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6 Responses to Haven Winter Blog Series: My Haven

  1. Jennifer and Natasha – what brilliant essays—full of love and cutting straight to my heart today, thank you for sharing.

  2. Dear Jennifer, How terrible that I had no idea there was a chapel at Logan?! Your piece really makes me start thinking, does every airport have a chapel? Is it located in approximately the same place – before or after baggage check-in? Between the gates? Seriously, I’m truly surprised and not a little embarrassed. What a lovely place to have found a Haven, in the middle of millions, each one needing something, expecting something, walking individual stories. You are so very lucky to have such an amazing place. Your piece reflects the thought, caring, and deep love you have for co-workers and your job. How very, very lucky you are! Well done :)

    Dear Natasha, Sully is adorable! That face! That expression! You can see the mind working. I must also congratulate you on being a HS Eng. teacher. I remember mine with great love, John O’Connor – a very special teacher that made words so much more than words. Just like Sully is so much more than a dog. Difficult to explain or define to someone who has never experienced that bond, and I admit, I feel so sorry for those people. Our animals love unconditionally, only judge for a moment at a time (like if dinner is a bit late!) and accept you no matter what. Your piece has so many components of the daily patience one must have as an educator, and the soft cozy place you find your snuggle bunny – aka dog – at home. I enjoyed your Haven very much.
    Breathe Deep, Think Peace

    • Natasha

      Patty, thank you so much for reading and sharing your thoughts! Teaching and parenting (even the four-legged kids) take patience and are exhausting, but they’re also incredibly rewarding. I’ll give Sully a smooch for you! ❤️

  3. Natasha

    Thank you for reading!!! ❤️

  4. The more I read about what “Haven” means for each of Laura’s bunch of writers, the more I am touched.

    Jennifer, I like how you reveal the contrast of Logan airport’s buzz, it’s people racing through, to the peace of your chapel-haven once the door closes and silence sets in. Love it, love it, love it. My kind of Haven! Next time I am at Logan, I will make room to visit your chapel. As a fellow Catholic, I am thrilled to know that in the midst of madness this -your- haven exists.

    Natasha, your reflection on the meaning of words couldn’t come more handy. I just had a discussion with a friend about it and will forward your piece as the eloquent answer to what I had tried to explain.
    Your funny revelation that the ‘he’ who fills your heart is not a lovely little boy with big eyes, but a dog. You made me laugh. Keep loving.

    Through your writings you both revealed a piece of your souls. Lovely.
    I want to read more from both of you.
    Keep writing,

    • Natasha


      Thank you so much for reading and sharing your thoughts! I wanted the picture to come after the writing instead of before so the reader would (hopefully) be surprised that I was referring to a dog instead of a little boy – thank you for telling me how you reacted to that part! The older I get and the longer I teach, the harder it is for me to give my students one answer about anything, even words in the dictionary…maybe that’s just due to years of rediscovery?

      Have a wonderful day –
      Natasha (and Sully)

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