Wabi Sabi Love

I am so honored to be in Arielle Ford’s new book, Wabi Sabi Love.  (In the same chapter as Michelle Obama, no less!)  This book takes ancient principles like:  To abbrieviate suffering, practice empathy, compassion, and surrender for both yourself and your partner…and merges them with modern living. 

This is the perfect Valentine’s Day gift.  Here are some inspiring words from Arielle:


Give Your Mate Amnesty For Valentines Day (its free!) By Arielle Ford

Sexy lingerie, romantic dinners, long stem roses, a box of chocolates, and champagne…these are typical Valentines Day gifts. As lovely and appreciated as these gifts can be, what if this year you gave your beloved something that they never expected, something that will make both of you happy and is totally free? Here’s what I’m suggesting: Give your beloved amnesty for the one thing you most complain, argue, or harass them about.


Decide right now to figure out how to create a new story for yourself about that thing your mate does that drives you crazy….find the beauty and perfection in it, and then GIFT them with your vow to finally let it go. Whether it’s the wet towels on the floor, the toilet seat left up, the dirty dishes in the sink, the constant texting at the dinner table, squeezing the toothpaste from the middle of the tube, forgetting to take out the trash, interrupting you when you are on the phone, or whatever transgression you have deemed unbearable.

If you are feeling really stuck, ask yourself these questions: How many more times am I willing to allow this situation to annoy me? What payoff do I get by finding fault in my partner? What does being “annoyed” keep me from having? Where did I learn to be annoyed by other people’s behavior?

NEXT: Imagine that your mate’s annoying behavior exists solely to teach you how to become a more loving and compassionate person. And then, upon reflection, please write down three (or more) gifts of the offending behavior. Looking for the gifts is an invaluable skill in a world in which we can’t control others behavior. While our partners may never change the quirks and idiosyncrasies that we find maddening, we can change our perceptions of them. This Valentines Day make a shift from “annoyed to enjoyed” and let your beloved know by sharing this free, very special amnesty vow with them www.wabisabilove.com/vow



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10 Responses to Wabi Sabi Love

  1. This is the most perfect and beautiful Valentine’s Day gift I can imagine. Thank you for the idea and inspiration.

  2. Sounds like flowers are out in this book is in!

    • lauramunson

      I think it’s totally brilliant. I’ll take being forgiven for the way I load the dishwasher over flowers any day! Thanks for saying hi, Stephanie! yrs. Laura

  3. I absolutely LOVE this… Thanks so much for sharing. Just purchased it and can’t wait to read it.

    This above line rocks me to my core: “Imagine that your mate’s annoying behavior exists solely to teach you how to become a more loving and compassionate person. And then, upon reflection, please write down three (or more) gifts of the offending behavior.” I should do this with all of life, of course (and it reminds me of David Foster Wallace’s old commencement speech (“This is water, this is water, this is water…”) about finding a healthy, manageable way to view the irritations of life), but it takes such rigorous practice…

    Anyway, thanks again for the recommendation. So excited to read your portion! :)

  4. Thank you Laura for featuring Wabi Sabi Love! When we begin to love the cracks in ourselves AND in our mate, life becomes easier, deeper, richer, more satisfying. We have been brainwashed by society to see perfection in our lives — and we have all figured out by now that perfection should just be called “pure fiction.” It doesn’t exist. So lets love who and what we are and love everyone else with the same wide open accepting heart.

    • lauramunson

      Arielle, you are one wise woman! I’m honored to have you in my life. Thank you for speaking heart language. And for your beautiful book. yrs. Laura

  5. Wyndham

    SUCH a wonderful idea! It’s an amazing book, and I LOVE this idea as a way to celebrate Valentine’s. SO much more fun and interesting and loving than flowers and pre-written cards. Thank you to Arielle and Laura, both, for sharing this!

    • lauramunson

      You know what I love about it most? That you actually create your Valentine’s Day “gift.” Rather than waiting around to be thought of and showered with a material symbol of love…you are acutally BEING LOVE. Thanks, Arielle! And thanks, Wyndham for saying hi. yrs. Laura

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