I am so overwhelmed by the response to my New York Times Modern Love essay, “Those Aren’t Fighting Words, Dear,” and I want to thank you for your support. I am in no way a marital guru; rather just a regular married person who loves her partner and like so many, went through a hard time. I am happy to say that ours is a success story, and I’m, in my own way, grateful for my marital “adventure” in that it gave me the opportunity to practice what I had been working on privately in my interior life. The map is not the territory. My husband gave me the territory. I wrote a book about it as it happened, because, as a writer, that’s what I do. I needed the book I was writing to be finished and sitting on my bedside table, but I couldn’t find it, and so…I wrote it. I wrote it to process what I was going through and to hopefully one day help people. Wonderful worlds are opening up to me in this regard. I will keep you posted. It is a profound experience to read your comments and though I can’t respond to every one, please know that I am deeply honored that my story, even in its essay form, has somehow helped.