Laura Munson

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Hi, I’m Laura Munson and I’m a writer. I wrote an essay for the Modern Love column of the New York Times (published on August 2, 2009) called “Those Aren’t Fighting Words, Dear.”

The reaction stunned me. It was the number one most read article on the New York Times website for the days following the essay’s publication; the top searched for two months. It crashed the New York Times website comments section, and created a firestorm all over the internet, around dining tables, at offices, and book groups across America and internationally. It was reproduced in The Week and on Oprah Online, and in many newspapers. I am the face behind that essay.

The essay was the short version of a memoir I wrote during a rough time in my marriage because I needed that book on my bedside table—one which would speak to me from the trenches, letting me know that I could be powerful and even happy, especially in a crisis. Mine could be a different reaction than what we see so often in our society. I didn’t have to be reactionary. I didn’t have to play victim. I didn’t have to suffer. But I couldn’t find a book like that—a simple story of a woman’s journey that wasn’t specifically spiritual or self-help, but like sitting with a gentle friend who is willing to be vulnerable and share her world so we don’t have to feel so alone. I couldn’t find that book, so I wrote it. That’s what we writers do. We write what we know. We write for ourselves and we write to provide relief for others. We write our way through life, and in some cases, we write our way to life. That’s how it happened for me during that challenging time.

My agent, Tricia Davey (Davey Literary & Media) went out with the book version that Monday morning, and after writing for twenty years, having completed fourteen novels and endured countless rejections…within forty-eight hours, I had a book deal.

The book is called “This Is Not The Story You Think It Is: A Season of Unlikely Happiness,” and it came out in April 2010 by Amy Einhorn Books/Putnam.

Both the essay and the book are ultimately about how to be responsible for your own well-being, especially during a crisis.  Plug it into any crisis.  Plug it into any and no religion.  It’s a powerful way to live.

It is my deepest hope that my book helps people! It landed on the New York Times bestseller list and the Book of the Month Club just named it one of this year’s best books. It’s a bestseller in Australia too, so I believe it is doing just that.

MY BLOG:  Haven 4:00 a.m.
My blog comes to you from my most raw place– the place I wake to each night:  4:00 a.m.  It’s an in-between place that is as weird as it is profound, as scary as it is funny.  It’s in this time that I process life, and when all the good ideas hatch.  So from my 4:00 a.m. to yours…


I have used my creative self-expression on the page since I was a child as a way to process this beautiful and heartbreaking thing called life.  We are all creative, whether we know it or not.  I believe that our creativity should be as valued in our society as diet and exercise! It’s my mission to help empower people to find their unique voice on the page, so I designed a four day experience that does just that.  Whether or not you are a writer, Haven meets you where you need to be met and helps ignite the flame in you that has never left.  Come re-fuel, pre-purpose, un-plug, and dig deeper into who you are in the woods of Montana.  Haven was named in the top five writing retreats in the US.  I’ve worked with hundreds of people, and I’ve watched it change lives over and over again.  For more information, testimonials, and links, click here.



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